The Spiral - A Shared Death Experience


This client was new. I had never seen her before. She was spritely and fun. And, she was celebrating her daughter’s birthday with a day out with the girls.

Her father came through to me. He had a message a love for her and thanked her for being by his bedside while he was dying. “I was at his bedside,” she said, “but, I wasn’t just at his bedside. I was actually laying next to him in his bed. I held him in my arms as he was dying.”

We both paused, absorbing the emotion of the moment. If you’ve ever been with anyone who has died, it is a sacred moment, a moment that lives forever.

“I had the most incredible experience with my Dad,” she continued.

“How so?” I asked.

“As I was holding him, I all of a sudden felt swept into a tunnel with him, a spiral. We were moving around and around and we were moving very fast. It was filled with the most incredible love I have ever known. It was energizing…

‘I knew instinctively that I could not continue on my Dad’s journey with him and I told him to go ahead of me, that I would need to turn back. When I came out of the tunnel, my Dad was pronounced dead three minutes later.”

“You had a Shared Death Experience (SDE),” I said.

“What’s that?” she asked.

“Williams Peter, a local therapist and founder of the Shared Crossing Project summarizes it best,” I said. Peters’ definition is that “The Shared Death Experience (SDE), a profound experience whereby a loved one, caregiver or bystander shares in a dying person’s initial transition from this world into the afterlife… People who have SDE's understand these events as an empathic co-experiencing of the passing away of their beloved.  The SDE is a transformative experience that can have far-reaching, positive implications for the survivor.  These include peace of mind about what comes next, compassion and appreciation for their loved one’s life, and insight into his/her own life purpose.”

According to Peters, the core elements of the Shared Death Experience are remarkable similar to that of the Near Death Experience (NDE)… The following SDE elements may include:

  • Mist at death

  • Hearing beautiful music

  • Change in the geometry of the room

  • Strong Upward Pull on the Body

  • Shared Out-of-Body Experience

  • Seeing a Mystical Light

  • Empathically Co-living the Life Review of the Dying Person

  • Greeted by Beings of Light

  • Encountering Heavenly Realms

  • Boundary in the Heavenly Realm

Dr. Raymond Moody, a medical doctor, described it in his book Glimpses Into Eternity.

After I gave her a sampling of the information I knew, my client said, “For nearly a year, I had so much energy that I didn’t know what to do. Even my brother asked me if I was ever going to return to normal. It was if the incredible love and energy from the other side infused into me.

‘The experience changed my life forever,” she said.

For more information about the Shared Crossing Project or Dr. Raymond Moody, please click on the links.